When I talk about readiness to encounter unpleasantness, I certainly do not mean masochism… I’m talking about facing honestly unpleasant situations.

The most important gestalt will emerge first. We don’t have to dig, a la Freud, into the deepest unconscious. We have to become aware of the obvious. If you understand the obvious, everything is there.

What we are trying to do in gestalt therapy is see the world now, the present, the awareness, and see what happens in the now.

The structure we are most interested in is the structure of our life script, often called karma, fate, and we are not very much aware that we are writing our life script. A life script that is mostly taken up with self torture, futile self improvement games, achievements, and so on. What we want to do is reorganize our life script.

Guilt is nothing but unexpressed resentment, and anxiety is nothing but the gap between the now and the later.

If you reduce the later to the now, the anxiety is bound to collapse.

If you learn to do unto others what you do unto yourself, you stop repressing yourself and preventing yourself from what you’re going to do.

One of the most frequent splits of the human personality is the top dog underdog split. The top dog, no one can psychoanalyze as the superego, the conscience. Unfortunately for the underdog, and he did not realize that usually the underdog wins in the conflict between top dog and underdog.

Everything is aware process. We’re still very reluctant to contribute awareness to matter. We used to believe that awareness is concentrated in the game. It’s really difficult to begin to imagine that the whole world, and we’re getting more and more scientific proofs of the fact that at least organic matter always has awareness. I am aware, you are aware, the chair is aware of me. As soon as we accept this, another dichotomy begins to collapse between the objective and the subjective. The subjective is awareness and the objective is the content of awareness.

We experience ourselves as a unique something, personality, soul, essence, so on. And we are also aware that we are all the time aware of something different, that we are in a diffferent place at a different time. So we try always to get hold and find out, and starts always in Gestalt therapy, whree are you, where are you in time, where are you in place, are you all there, or are you at home attending to some unfinished business? And where are you in awareness? Are you in touch with the world? Are you in touch with yourself? Are you in touch with these middle zone fantasy life that is then interfering with being completely in touch with yourself or the world? When you’re in touch with the world, then something happens. What maeks us get in touch with the word? That is the emerging gestalt, the emerging need, the emerging unfinished situation. And if we cannot cope iwth that situation, we are looking for support. Something, somebody who can help us to cope with. And that support can either be secured by manipulating the environment for support, crying for help, there are certain roads to secure this help, by playing helpless, playing cry baby, controlling the owrl.d Or we get the support from within ourselves. And then we call in the door into ourselves, to find the support. And we always find something when we